• Everything you say or do makes them mad
• You may be compliant, loving or compromising to keep your partner from escalating

• Your partner rages out of control
• Battering occurs
• You may disassociate to get through the violence

Your partner…

• Is sorry, loving, or kind
• Begs for forgiveness
• Promises to get help
• Buys gifts
• Promises it will never happen again

Over time, the "hearts and flowers" portion of the cycle disappears.
You are told that your BAD behavior is what causes your partner to "lose control".

The Colorado State Law says that Domestic Violence is:

An act or threatened act of violence upon a person with whom the actor is or has been involved with in an intimate relationship. Domestic Violence includes any other crime against a person or property, including an animal, when it is used as a method of coercion, control, punishment, intimidation, or revenge directed against a person with whom the actor is or has been involved in an intimate relationship.

C.R.S. 18-6-800.3 (1)

• Avoid rooms that don't have an outside exit, or any room with a weapon
• Devise a code word to use with family, friends, or neighbors for when to call police
• Ask neighbors to call police if they hear a disturbance
• Teach your children to go to a safe place to wait for the police, such as their bedroom, a neighbor's or friend's house

• Hide money; an extra set of car keys; clothing for you and your children (appropriate for the season); important documents such as birth certificates, social security numbers (yours, your partner's, and children's); driver's license; copies of bills, ownership papers, insurance policies, health insurance information, marriage license, and bank account information; valuable jewelry; and a special toy for each of your children
• Decide whom you can stay with, or if you go to a shelter, keep the shelter number and/or Victim Services number with you
• You may contact Broomfield City and County Central Records at 1 DesCombes Drive or the voter registration office in the county where you vote to ask for a confidentiality form to block personal information on your voter registration to be safe from your abuser
• Obtain a restraining order or contact Victim Services at 303-438-6429 for restraining order assistance
• Inform your family, friends, and children's school about the restraining order
• Call 9-1-1 if the batterer breaks the restraining order
• Call 9-1-1 to report an Act of Violence

Employers shall permit an employee to take up to three (3) working days of leave from work, with or without pay, in any 12-month period if the employee is the victim of:

• Domestic abuse, Colorado Revised Statute (C.R.S.) 13-14-101(2)
• Stalking, C.R.S. 18-9-11
• Sexual Assault, C.R.S. 18-3-4-2
• Or any other crime in which the underlying factual basis has been found by a court on the record to include an act of Domestic Violence, C.R.S. 18-6-800.3

This leave must be for seeking a civil restraining order, obtaining medical care or mental health counseling, making their home secure from the perpetrator of the above acts, to seek new housing, or to seek legal assistance to address issues arising from these acts of violence.

This provision applies to employers who employ fifty (50) or more employees and to employees who have been employed with the employer for twelve (12) months or more.

An employee seeking this leave prior to receiving such leave shall exhaust any and all annual or vacation leave, personal leave, and sick leave (if applicable) that may be available to the employee, unless the employer waives the requirement.

All information related to the employee's leave pursuant to this section shall be kept confidential by the employer. It is unlawful for any employer to interfere with, restrain, discharge, discriminate, or deny the exercise of any attempt to exercise any rights provided under this section.

A person claiming to be aggrieved by a violation of this section may sue civilly for damages, including all wages or benefits that would have been due the person, or equitable relief, or both, in any district court of competent jurisdiction.

A temporary protection order may be issued if the issuing judge or magistrate finds that an imminent danger exists to the person or persons seeking protection under the civil protection order.

"Imminent danger" is the health or life of one or more persons, considering the circumstances surrounding the most recent incident of abuse or threat of harm and any other relevant evidence regarding the safety of the person(s) seeking this order.

Employers May Get Protection Orders

If the judge or magistrate finds that an imminent danger exists to the employees of a business entity, he or she may issue a civil protection order in the name of that business for the protection of the employees.

An employer shall not be liable for failing to obtain a protection order in the name of the business for the protection of the employees and patrons.

• Broomfield Police Department Emergency 911
  Voice/TDD Non-Emergency 303-438-6400
  Victim Services 303-438-6429 or 303-438-6471
• Alternatives to Family Violence (Adams) 303-289-4441
• Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Non-Violence 303-444-2424
  (Lafayette Office) 303-673-9000
• Women in Crisis 303-420-6752 (Jefferson County)
• Greeley Safehouse (A Woman's Place) 970-356-4226
  (Weld County)
• Project Safeguard (Legal Advocacy) 303-863-7233 or 303-637-7761
• Brandon Center (Volunteers of America) 303-620-9190
• Gateway Battered Women's Shelter (North) 303-343-1851
  (South) 303-761-7721
• Domestic Violence Initiative for Women With Disabilities 303-839-5510
• Safe Shelter of St. Vrain Valley 303-772-4422
• Asian Pacific Development Center (Translation/Advocacy) 303-393-0304

7 DesCombes Drive
Broomfield, CO 80020